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It is definitely challenging. Thanks for your encouraging words. However, for the past 5 years or so, the different ways that we approach issues, mostly having to do with family, have been challenging, to say the least, to the point where we are close to splitting up. My family's behavior has been abysmal, frequently overriding my wife's desires or overstepping their bounds. Our daughter has taken on a similar personality as my family.
My wife is a loving and caring person, which I continue to find extraordinarily attractive, but to me, her wanting to be helpful and her sensitivity to behavior is in excess. When I was working from home, she would bring me snacks even when I asked her not to. She thought I'd enjoy it but I frequently felt obligated to eat it.
She manages the house to a point where she has neglected herself. She had great plans to do some creative work, but her excuses are that she has no time due to household chores or her space is not exactly how it needs to be for her to be creative.
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I'm in a dilemma, but am working hard at better understanding what she needs from me because I want to make this marriage work. This site has been most helpful in at least getting a basic understanding of how she sees things and how I can better support her. I haven't been as supportive a husband as I should have been. I need to be more caring. I'm hoping that other ESFJ's can provide some guidance as to where to go for more help, or to give some ways in which I might be a better husband.
I know I can't change her, but I can try to change how I react and relate. My comment was wrong before about who we are most compatible with. I'm currently dating an introvert right now so it can work with any personality types. This is SO accurate! This is the first time i've read a personality test that makes sense and has actually helped me!
Yes it was way off for me too. I am bad at every "good" career, and good at every "bad" career that they listed. And I definitely don't have a girl personality. It's very much like me and explains a few things about who I am.
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Though I do like photography but would probably be more fulfilled in the serving occupations. This dead drivers m me but it's very predictable and boring personality type. It gives me a solid foundation. He is curious and knowledgeable about many things and as such I'm always learning from him. He doesn't love to try new things, but when he is willing to, it's delightful for me. I'm so happy to have found a man who is thoughtful, attentive to details, and stable and reliable.
Those things may seem boring until you have a life where they're absent, then you realize how valuable they are! Well, my list is endless really -- but those are the attributes that bubble to the top when I'm trying to articulate why I feel so lucky. After an extremely unreliable husband, dating an isfj is the most calming and safe experience ever.
I forgot to add, he is VERY masculine and athletic. These traits may be found more often in women, but it doesn't mean that men who share them aren't masculine. I am a INFJ and have 3 sons. We all took the test and my 14 year old son tested out as a INFJ also.
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The more I have thought about each of them and how they tested out, the more I see it. My son actually took the test twice to make sure. I don't think he was crazy about the results but it is so him! Thank you for giving insight on the male perspective and the positives you see there! He is so kind and thoughtful and caring, I keep telling him he would be a great vet or doctor!
It's a great personality type to have. Glad you're so encouraging of your sons.
My man is a biologist and he loves what he does! I think this type succeeds at whatever they decide to. It's crazy to read something that is so me, reading this is like the person was sitting talking to me taking notes. I guess mine has changed, which im not sure its normal, but maybe it is--last time I took this test I was 'The Healer' and now I'm 'The Protector' its strange cuz I borderlined on 'Judge vs Perceiver' and I also borderlined on the 'Extravert and Introvert' this time though this personality is accurate as well haha: I am an isfj going through trauma and mourning.
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Primary tabs Overview active tab Careers Relationships Resources. What is an ISFJ? What are ISFJs like? What are the core values of the ISFJ? The Art of SpeedReading People. Who are some famous ISFJs? How common is the ISFJ personality type? What do ISFJs like to do? What the experts say "ISFJs emphasize loyalty, consideration, and the common welfare.
On personality trait measures, score as Conservative, Conventional, Guarded, and Reserved Among types most likely to believe in a higher spiritual power More likely than average to experience chronic pain Among types most likely to suffer heart disease Second most common type among education majors in college More likely than other types to watch more than 3 hours of television per day Personal values include Happy family, Health and Spirituality Overrepresented among MBA students and male small business owners Among three types with the lowest income Commonly found in education, health care, and religious occupations Source: Prairie Meyer-Hesler not verified says Guest not verified says I've always been into journalism.
Autumn not verified says Lawson not verified says KibbeIntp not verified says Chowznbeautie not verified says Yep, this is exactly me Now who am I compatible to? Dibella not verified says This fits perfectly, I'm surprised how accurate this is.. Catabisis not verified says If u really want to grow as a person then an entj will help u do that. GuestAly not verified says Smartbutblind not verified says Karen not verified says Thanks for this helpful information!!
It's crazy to read this and realize that it nailed it to a "T". A lot of women seem to be primarily looking for a good ans trustworthy guy who doesn't have bad intentions. Online dating is a pain, lol. Falcon5 and candycane75 thanked this post. Sponsored Links Remove Advertisements. Originally Posted by A Nice Guy. To note, I'm a christian and that has made my search much harder. I've been on a paid member on christianmingle. My understanding on most dating sites, is the men are generally aggressive and many women do not go out and do much searching theirselves as they are busy reading emails and reviewing their profiles.
If I were you, I'd spend quite a bit of time searching through women's profiles who are active recently and message, but then there's the chance they are not paid subscribers. I don't bother with any sites' matching system, I go and do a lot of reading and searching. Match is the biggest site by far, there are a lot of members. As stated, you can check out the free ones but I recommend avoiding them unless you just want to peek around.
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Falcon5 I am not sure I can help a lot, but I do know there are women out there looking for the type of guy you are. I was on several sites, for some reason I never joined match, but I was on eHarmony, christian mingle, and a few free sites. I agree with A Nice Guy I do not recommend the free sites. I too am a christian and dating sites can be difficult for us. I was just trying to figure how you guys think a little. I just started dating a guy from eHarmony and he is really sweet and very gentleman like.
I do not really have any complaints. I am a fast lane kind of girl, meaning I fall quickly and jump in to relationships usually.
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I can tell he is slow lane, which is different for me, but I am appreciating it a lot. Anyways out of the several dating sites I have been on I recommend eHarmony. Also agree to sift through and respond only to those you are interested in. I used to, out of politeness respond to everyone, but I was extremely overwhelmed. Good luck on your searches!
Falcon5 and RansomthePasserby thanked this post. Originally Posted by candycane Do not make your dating life all about dating sites. Make sure you get to pick and choose the people and or answers on those things. I have a sibling It was long distance at first but within weekend drive. Fast forward and theynhave been married over 6 years.